Losing a Job is Like a Teenage Breakup

Losing a job can feel akin to a teenage breakup.  It stirs up a whirlwind of emotions, leaving us feeling vulnerable and uncertain about the future. However, just like overcoming heartbreak, we emerge resilient and often find new opportunities that lead to greater fulfilment.

This is precisely how Lisa (alias) described her recent experience.  I met Lisa through a group chat when she sought an employment lawyer referral.  Not only did I make the referral, I made an extra effort and asked if she wanted to chat privately. Why? Because losing a job can leave us feeling lonely.  I've been there and I know the value of support.

From the moment I met Lisa, I knew she'd be just fine.  Glad to report that she has landed a new job already.

Lisa's experience, coupled with my own, has taught us invaluable lessons:

Safeguarding one's interest, especially when relocating to a new country, is paramount.   Don't let the excitement of a new job cloud our ability to think through the "what ifs".   Protect yourself contractually.   For me, my CEO resigned seven months after I moved to a new country.  The new guy knew I had 30 days to pack up and leave the country, giving me zero leverage for discussion with an unemphatic employer. 

Letting go and moving forward can be daunting, especially when we feel undervalued. It's natural to reflect on our contributions - the business we brought in, the extra hours invested- and feel a sense of entitlement.  However, clinging to perceived value can sometimes hinder our progress. Lisa's insistence on negotiating stock options with a shaky startup serves as a poignant reminder of this.

Don't underestimate the power of empathy.   Expressing support and acknowledgment during difficult times can make a significant difference. What did you say to your colleagues when they were restructured from the company? Were you silent? At the same time, you should not harbour resentment towards those who may struggle to find the right words.

Future proof.  It is always easier to find a job when you have a job.  Share your USP (Unique Selling Proposition) with your network throughout your relationship, not just when you need a job. Future proofing gives you the clarity to find your true love - a role that aligns with your value, your purpose.

As we navigate the complexities of career transitions, let's continue to support one another and embrace the resilience within us all.

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